What’s your best 1st step forward?

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So how do I get started? Here’s my advice for taking the first step toward better fitness and health.

What’s your “WHY”? What do you REALLY want out of this? Do you want to be healthy, lose some weight or look great in a Speedo? Or do you want to have the energy to play with your kids, be more attentive with your spouse and become a better person to be around. My “WHY” was the second set of reasons, not the first. When I felt like giving up, these were the reasons I didn’t grab the second plate of food, I went for the walk, I woke up early and stayed focused even when I didn’t want to. Find your “WHY” and take relentless massive action toward it!

Don’t focus on too much too fast. Pick one or two things and work really hard on them for 30 days. If you are doing really well, add something new. If not, refocus and make sure you put the habits in place that will carry you! I would rather focus on changing the underlying cause of the problem than just the symptoms. When you find a problem, go after the source!

Stick to a schedule. I prefer an “everyday” activity because this is how I built my daily disciplines. I would oversleep and then drive my happy tail across town and sit in my car at the rec center instead of just saying screw it for the day and getting an extra 20 minutes of sleep. I slowly started getting up a little earlier and working out for 10 minutes. I finally got tired of it so I started getting up on time and putting in a full workout. This has been one of the top 3 disciplines I have cemented over the past 3 years. Don’t underestimate that one missed workout. I believe it’s more important to go through the motions than it is to actually workout.

Be Positive, Be Patient, Be Persistent. I’m adding this because it is my mantra. I hate waiting. I want what I want and I want it NOW!!! So I repeat this statement everyday while I drink my coffee. (I seriously had it put on my coffee cup as a reminder) I used to weigh myself 4 times a day. Was it obsessive? Yes. Did it work for me? Yes. I also know people who only weigh themselves once a week. They have had tremendous success with it. As with your whole plan- trial and error & and find out what works best for YOU!!!

Don’t over complicate it. I know it is tempting to read every book, blog and try something new every week when you aren’t seeing instant results. Find a plan and work it every single day. If you screw today up, forget about it. It’s gone. You can’t do anything about it… Don’t dwell on the bad day- move on. Minimize the bad days and maximize the good days. To this day, this is still my focus. If I mess up a day, I move on and get back on track tomorrow. Don’t have two bad days in a row!

With running- run when you can, walk if you have to, but never ever finish early. I couldn’t run a full block when I started. It sucked. It was hard. We worked on it and followed our plan and let time work in our favor. I’m not here to B.S. you- it’s going to be hard. It’s going to take time. Days when you don’t want to get off the couch. Days when you want to eat everything in sight. Days when you just don’t feel like it. There are going to be days when you want to quit. DON’T! It is so worth sticking it out and being uncomfortable. Think of your “WHY” to get you through the hard days.

Whatever you do, however you do it, start TODAY!!! Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is too far away. What you do today (good or bad) effects all of your tomorrows. Start with a piece of paper, write down your “WHY”, make plan, post your plan where you will read it every day and start taking action! Stop waiting and stop overthinking. Just start with what you can do right now. Your future self will thank you!

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Repeat. Repeat. Repeat…

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Anything worth doing is worth repeating over and over and over again until it becomes a part of you.

There are 4 primary steps to modifying your mindset toward a new goal or destination.

  • Awareness
  • Clarity
  • Prioritize
  • Focus

This is all before the intended action even begins moving forward.

I often hear how difficult it is to start a new habit. Many times I see how a person drifts from their focus while habitually falling back into the actions they have followed for years and decades. The frustration and overwhelm of having to repeat a thought, an action, a situation over and over and over again with the temporary feelings of disgust.

The rules of the game are set by a force much greater than us. The universe has some basic laws she follows, and it is not in our ability to change the rules. The idea of fighting the rules and working against the natural laws is exhausting and a game we will never win… so why not just learn the rules and do your best to become effective and efficient within the confinements of the reality we live in?

Do you “KNOW” or do you continue to get a “NO”?

  • K stands for Knowledge
  • N stands for Negative
  • O stands for Opposing
  • W stands for Wisdom

Understanding and Acceptance of the Natural Laws turns ‘NO’ into ‘YES’!

Knowledge x Understanding x Acceptance = Wisdom

Without Knowledge or Understanding or Acceptance there can be no Wisdom.

Anything multiplied by a negative receives a negative outcome…

(+ x + x – = -)

Any positives multiplied by any positives receives a positive outcome…

(+ x + x + = +)

What does this have to do with Personal Development?

Everything…

The basic Laws of the Universe give us the tools to improve our life, if we are just willing to open our mind… if we listen to understand… understand to accept the great laws rather than working against the exact force which is designed to help us grow forward.

Time moves forward, at the same speed, every single day, for as long as history has been recorded in written form.

The earth rotates the same direction, at the same speed, every single day, for as long as history has been recorded in written form.

The seasons come and the seasons go, in the same order, at the same consistency, for as long as history has been recorded in written form.

I beg to ask the questions…

  • Why do humans, for some reason in this era of more information than has even been available to a single person and the world, believe they can somehow change the Laws of the Universe, now, at this point in time?
  • Why do humans believe complicated scientific theories or explanations can somehow alter the basic Laws of Physics?
  • Why do humans believe quick fixes and instant results can somehow be brought forward with a cheap product or a ‘secret’ process that contradicts the basic Laws of Psychology?
  • Why do humans believe quick riches and monetary gain can somehow be attracted or manifested overnight in ways that counteract the basic Laws of Economics?

At what point did the ability to sell millions of books or have millions of podcast listeners or have millions of video subscribers somehow create movements of people who think they can somehow outsmart the basic laws that have governed Earth for thousands, millions, or even billions or years?

It is simple really…

  • Time.
  • Attention.
  • Energy.
  • Feelings.

The people who make the most noise get the most attention, know how to exert their energy toward creating feelings that move people to focus on a certain amount of time to show the results they need or want to project to keep the attention, energy, feelings, and time of the people who can pay the most focus toward the cause in which is most profitable in the current cycle.

There is no secret to life or change or business or health or fitness or anything really… culture and society knows the best marketing campaign to provide the loudest message to provoke the right feelings at the right time from the right people to get what is best for them in that current moment in time.

Society and Culture is playing a game… and we are the losers.

The only real way to counteract the noise of the world is to regain your own Personal Power over three areas of yourself.

  • Mindset
  • Behaviors
  • Environment

There are three primary areas of life you will want to focus on the regain your Personal Power.

  • Business
  • Fitness
  • Family

IF you are willing to look at the 6 primary areas of your current daily routines, you can begin to Climb YOUR Mountain of Personal Power so you can live the life you want to live.

  • Mindset Outlets: Intellectual and Creativity
  • Progressive Behaviors: Forward Movement and Physical Exercitation
  • Environmental Support: Spiritual and Emotional Releases

To begin to take the first steps forward, it is important to Clear the Clutter.

  • Create the Awareness of what you are currently doing.
  • Begin to remove clutter and barriers that are obvious and distracting you from taking a positive step forward.
  • Organize and Prioritize the direction you want to go and the steps you want to take to get there.
  • Focus…
  1. Focus Forward on the top priority.
  2. Focus your Attention on the FIRST step forward.
  3. Remove the Clutter of distractions and FEAR…

Start moving FORWARD with the FIRST step toward the rest of your life…

Take the first step.

Repeat.

Repeat again.

Repeat again and again.

Repeat again and again and again.

Repeat again and again and again and again.

Do NOT quit MOVING FORWARD!

Give yourself a hand.

Give yourself some grace.

Give yourself a chance.

Give yourself the opportunity to learn and grow and discover a whole new world you didn’t even know was possible by simply moving in the direction you want to go and repeating the action until you find the next best step forward in the direction of your goals and dreams!

Always cheering for you,
Gary

I have had some people ask recently what I do and what coaching relationship with me is like. Here is a quick synopsis. If you or anyone you know might be interested, please feel free to schedule a time that is convenient for you. I would love to find out more about you and see how I can add value to your life.

The basics:
I focus on mindset, behavior, and environmental modifications in business, fitness, and life. This is a fancy way of saying, we chat for an hour a week over the phone and we set goals, develop an action plan, and troubleshoot as we go to make sure we build consistent forward progress.

The calls have 3 main areas:
Sunshine- What’s going well
Sunset- What’s not going so well
Sunrise- How we can move forward in a positive direction

https://coachgary.as.me/tackaction

Can’t wait to chat!

Consistent Daily Discipline

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“Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.” Jim Rohn

If there is one idea that separates winning from losing, it is the discipline of daily personal development. I spend several hours a week improving myself mentally. Reading books and articles, listening to speakers, presentations, podcasts and anything else I can get my hands on. Over the past 12 years I have learned the importance of self-education and personal responsibility. Although I may not be successful (depends on who’s judging), I know a thing or two about being young and getting what I want. I’m here to share a few things I started in my 20’s and I hope you find value in the ideas below. I know how valuable your time is.

Goals- If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll never arrive. Know your vision and take consistent and massive action toward your goals. Personally, I’m a dreamer. I’m willing to go for failure and I don’t worry about how hard it is going to be or how long it is going to take. A goal is never too big if I’m focused and willing to take the action needed to accomplish it. Once I set a goal, I reduce it to writing and put it on my vision board. I read it 5+ times a day as though I have already accomplished it. I become so focused on my goal(s) that I can’t sleep because I want to wake up and start taking action toward it. If you aren’t working toward your goals, you’ll be working toward someone else’s goals.

Wake up early- I don’t know about you, but in college, I never took a class before 11am. I stayed up late and I didn’t make it to most of my afternoon classes either. I was never stressed and had plenty of time to do what I wanted. As I have grown up and started a family, I have learned how important alone time is. I now make it a priority to wake up and get started while the rest of the world is sleeping. Most days, I have my personal development, exercise, my “hour of power”, goal setting/review, breakfast and a cup of coffee done before 7. If you struggle with “I don’t have time” consider waking up early. I’ve studied many millionaires, billionaires and highly successful people and most of them wake up early and start working on their goals and dreams. If waking up early is good enough for them it’s good enough for me.

Be coachable- I have found more people willing to help me because I have an open mind, work ethic, my willingness to try something new and my love for learning. Not all knowledge is useful, and you may not find value in everything you try. I can tell you from experience though, I’ve learned more from failure and how not to do something than I have from succeeding. The best part about being coachable, you can find someone who has been through the school of hard knocks and they can save you time and energy if you will just listen and discuss. I’ve been told one of life’s greatest pleasures is mentoring someone who is willing to be mentored. I’ve attracted some pretty awesome mentors up to this point!

Be self-confident- Yes, you may be young, but does that mean you aren’t a professional? NO! This has been one of the most difficult business tasks I’ve had to overcome. I see myself as young and assumed more prominent people looked at me the same way. I had a fear of calling on someone with a prominent title… The more and more I have interacted with older professionals, the more I have learned they are normal people. Don’t let your age or lack of a title get in your way from making a contact that could spring board your future! If you don’t believe in yourself, don’t expect anyone else to either.

Be a professional and become an expert in your field- Yes a first impression is important, but give me 5 minutes with someone and I will show why we should do business together.  Let me demonstrate my knowledge and expertise and not only will earn their business, they will come back again and bring their friends. You can act your age or you can become a professional. Just remember, they pay accordingly.

Take full responsibility- This is life changing if you’ll take it serious. You can’t expect someone else to take care of you. Whether you’re 18, 20, 25, 30 or older, it is time to grow up and take responsibility for your future. If you don’t take full responsibility for your future, someone else will. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. If you are willing to work hard, be coachable and always be learning, you will not only find more opportunities, but you will create opportunities.

Start the process with a little self-evaluation. Be honest and open with yourself. What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? Pick one area and start working on it right now! YOU are the only person who can change your thoughts and actions. I promise, make the decision to work on yourself every day and you open a door to endless possibilities!

If you don’t learn to discipline yourself, the universe will discipline you according to your thoughts, actions, and emotions. What you do today effects ALL of your tomorrows…

What ACTION! will you take today!?

Resolve this New Year

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“Start where you are and work toward where you want to be.”

Resolve is to decide firmly on a course of action and settle or find a solution to a problem, dispute, or contentious matter…

With the new year, it is simple to look at the blank calendar ahead and wonder what is next. For some, the new year is filled with excitement. A fresh start after a difficult year. Maybe this year will be the time things change.

For others, a new year means the old year is gone and it could mean going from hero to zero… in just the moment the clock turns 12 and the year rolls over to ’21. A great year has ended and then anxiety of the next is sure to follow without a clear direction forward.

There are a few, when the statistics are broken down, that have a goal and a plan and a way to move forward with excitement and anticipation as the new year means it’s another opportunity to keep moving forward in the direction of their goals and dreams.

Whether you are starting or finishing or hoping to begin again, I want to leave you with a quick set of steps you can use to reset your mindset, behaviors, and environment into the new year. This is not an exhaustive list nor is it the “secret” to goal setting, yet it is a great place to start moving forward. The best place to start is where you are so you can work to where you want to go. If you are doing the best you possibly can, that’s a solid step to take.

The simple journal process is designed to help clear the clutter of overwhelm and move forward toward focusing on creating a focused vision toward the future you desire.

Grab a pen and some paper and let’s get started!

  • If I could have anything I wanted, what would it be?
  • Why do I wake up in the morning?
  • Where do I want to spend my time and attention?
  • What creative talents would I want to express?
  • What intellectually stimulates and challenges me to grow?
  • How do I want my emotional/spiritual journal to feel?
  • How would I eat and exercise to live my best life?
  • Where do I want to personally grow this year?
  • Who do I admire that I could learn from?
  • Who would I like to share my life with?
  • How could I grow forward toward the person I want to become?
  • When is the best time to take the first step forward?

These questions are designed to get the process of thoughts flowing for you. Let your mind wonder. Ponder each question, think out loud, write your answers as if they are going into the trash, and allow yourself the grace to run free like you would have as a kid. As you work though the questions, you will notice the mind opens up and releases thoughts, feelings, and desires to begin taking action. Things will come to mind and sound great while quickly fizzling out. Others will start soft and gain more traction as you give them energy and attention.

Once you have allowed yourself the time and attention to marinate on your goals, start to solidify the goals that catch the most attention. Work through the following questions to begin taking the ideas out of your head and placing them into reality with action.

  • What do you want?
  • Why do you want it?
  • How do you plan to get it?
  • Who can help you accomplish your goal?
  • Where will you start taking action?
  • When is the best time to take the first step forward?

As you move forward, it might be a good idea to organize your goals into a few categories. This will help you prioritize your goals depending on your specific priorities and life situation.

  • Business
  • Fitness
  • Family
  • Life

I hope this gives you a solid step forward in building a plan for 2021. I am happy to help with a more specific and personalized plan to help you achieve the goals you are willing to work for in 2021 and Beyond!

Always Cheering for You,

Gary