Does the moon get lonely?

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Traveling alone is one of the greatest experiences I’ve ever had the opportunity to do. Over 25k miles across the United States in the past year…  through the backroads and big cities to see the most beautiful sunrises and sunsets from lighthouses, beaches, colorful waters, the highest mountains, and everywhere in between.


It is rare when I miss my goal of having an intentional conversation with a stranger. I pass out a few business cards every day too. I’m often surrounded by masses of people.
Yet, one thing drifts into my life many nights.


Loneliness.


Often it is comforted by the aloneness I feel from the inside. I am very lucky to have a solid and positive relationship with myself.
There are however, a few times here and there, when loneliness strikes hard.
It does make sense, I don’t really fit in anywhere with many people. I live an adventurous life but I don’t follow many cultural norms.

I often feel very boring and left out…
I don’t drink or smoke.
I rarely eat out as I still struggle with my relationship with food.
I don’t have a partner to call or friends who can come along. 


I spend my days listening to the stories of the people I meet along the way, knowing the relationship will end soon and I will be back to my own little world without much of a fanfare.


I have spent the last month without physically seeing anyone that I know. 30 days without real contact with a friend or family member. I spend 20+ hours everyday alone with only the thoughts in my head, feelings in my heart, and the feet that carry me along the way…


Tonight, as I wandered off on an Adventure, I’m sitting here watching the full moon rise over the Atlantic Ocean… no stars… no clouds… just a brisk wind carry the sound of the waves across my heart while I sit here and wonder…


Do you think the moon gets lonely?


My personal experiment of 30 days is nothing compared to what many people have had to go through the past year… a year of being forced to be alone without energetic contact, or physical touch, or emotional connection with someone close.
As the next step unfolds and the beginning of the aftershock begins to hit, I can’t help but wonder what the lasting effects are going to be of the massive isolation movement hidden behind masks and fear and reintegration into the future of society.
What I see on the road is much different than what I see on social media and the news. I wish I could say one is better or right or more predictable… but I can’t.


What I do know is that there is going to be some difficulties ahead.


All humans want love and attention communicated in a way they understand. People want to be seen, heard, and affirmed.
Here is a simple formula to give positive attention to anyone so we can work to improve the positive energy and reduce the destructive behaviors that follow when people begin to seek validation l through unhealthy means.


3 steps to Positive Attention


Seen

1. Focused Attention: Give the person you’re with your full attention.

Heard

2. Listen to Understand: Become passionately curious about them and what they’re saying (and what they’re not saying) without judgment and ridicule.

Affirmed

3. Leave a Profit: People don’t always need a response or guidance, they just need/want to verbally process what is in their head. Keep your ears open and mouth shut… it will go a long way to healing and providing a positive step in a better direction.


I encourage you to reach out to a friend or family member. Maybe you need an ear or maybe they need an smile.


Share some positivity today.

Give some kindness today.

Fill your heart with Joy today.


And no matter how lonely you are, remember the moon shines it’s brightest all alone.

Is TIME holding you down?…

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Time…

The misconception of time, the comparison of numbers, the justification through explanation… it all comes down to the temporary feelings of what could’a, should’a, and would’a been done or is acceptable if we can just find a way to justify it with numbers.

Time is one of the most misunderstood concepts in human history. It doesn’t even exist. The subconscious mind doesn’t understand time. Culture manipulates the perception of time depending on how it will benefit their marketing cause or bottom line.

Anything can be manipulated if given enough time, or shown in a small enough snippet of time yet the universe is built on nearly infinite time. Written recorded history has been kept for the human’s understanding of about 6,000 years. Science has guesstimated the earth is millions and possibly billions of human years old.

The Sun (the true source of energy in our solar system) is said to be nearly infinite in how long it will provide light and energy. It could be millions and billions of years before the sun stops producing energy.

What does this have to do with personal development?

Everything.

Humans are a tiny blip in the universe. The earth. Nature. The atmosphere. The sun and moon. The solar system. The universe. The possibility of multiple universes and solar systems far beyond our comprehension… yet one thing remains a mystery…

Time.

What if??…

What if time doesn’t exist?

Yes, the sun comes up and the sun goes down. The earth revolves around the sun and as a byproduct creates an estimate of weather patterns we call seasons.

What if everything we think we know is manipulated between our conscious mind and our subconscious mind to the point that we aren’t thinking about time properly?

What if the idea that we should be losing weight or healing from childhood trauma or making a million dollars or getting married by 30 or living in a huge mansion debt free or living the ‘American Dream’ by 40 or retiring at 55 is all just a made-up scenario with a mystical time frame to keep our mind trapped and focused on the guilt and shame which causes us to lose focus on the one thing that truly matters on this planet and in our hearts.

Joy.

Joy is defined as a feeling of great pleasure and happiness.

I am not an expert on history or biblical text and I am in no way affiliated with a formal church or religion, however, I came across a quote that has had a profound influence on my life.

Galatians 5:22-23

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

As this is one of the oldest written texts and has been used for 2000 years as guide for life, I couldn’t help taking a deeper look into my own interpretation of the words. In the best selling book in human history, love and joy and peace are not brought by a mass accumulation of things or feelings in the shortest amount of time… but the accumulation of love and joy and peace with the accumulation of time and patience and kindness and faithfulness and gentleness and self-control.

The ancient definition which describes the way to a joyful and loving life is in quite the exact opposite of how current culture and societal influences would lead us to believe. The striving for overindulgence of pleasure and the complete avoidance of discomfort in the smallest amount of time is a strong and reoccurring message wherever we go, in all we see, and in each form of media we tend to focus on because it captures our attention.

If I haven’t lost you by now, I want to leave you with a strong and powerful lesson I have learned from my own experiences and the experiences I have learned working with the wonderful people I get to work with each week.

Time is infinite and constantly flowing. There is no beginning. There is no ending. There is only a chance to refresh our heart and mind and body with the lessons of yesterday and our mind on today taking the solid step forwards into our tomorrow.

There is no race.

There is no time limit.

There is no finish line.

There is only the chance to reassess where you are today and focus on where you want to go tomorrow while taking the step today. We cannot slow down or speed up time. We cannot change the rules. We cannot cheat the basic laws of the universe that guide our mental, physical, and spiritual energy.

Media and marketing plows will do anything and everything they can to tap the pain points within our psyche and play off the instant gratification culture they have created to show the short-term positives of the product they are pushing or the perceived lack of long term negatives from that which they want us to consume today.

Time will keep moving forward.

You logically know what is best for you today and tomorrow.

You emotionally know what is best for you today and tomorrow.

You spiritually know what is best for you today and tomorrow.

It takes the development of Personal Power to keep your head, heart, mouth, and feet aligned so you can take the step forward with your feet planted firmly on the ground as to not lose your balance and fall into the cluttered noise.

*Climb YOUR Mountain of Personal Power = Self Awareness + Self Discipline + Self Confidence + Self Worth* (More to come on these steps in the future)

Don’t let the noise of the world overtake your thoughts, feelings, and actions down the undesirable path of losing who you are in order to prove your worth to a bunch of people who don’t care beyond a social media like or a negative comment they won’t even remember making tomorrow. I give you permission to do what is best for yourself. I am allowing you the grace to take the time you need and want to understand where you are today, heal from all that has happened in your yesterdays, and gain the knowledge and wisdom you need to regain your personal power tomorrow.

Take the ultimate lesson from the Sun…

Find YOUR Inner Sunshine through:

-Creative and Intellectual Outlets
-Physical Exertion and Forward Progress
-Emotional and Spiritual Releases

Look inside to great a ball of internal fire and explode for all to see. With each inner explosion, you will create an everlasting energy so bright the universe can’t help but watch and stare with delight as you shine your light and let your energy be… oh so bright.

Namaste