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What is Mindset Conditioning?

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I have been asked the question: “What exactly do you do?” so many times, I have finally been able to answer the question with a little bit of organization. I have worked diligently for years to build the coaching business I am good at and so very proud of.

Over the past 5 years, I have accumulated over 3,000 hours of 1:1, group coaching mixed with additional hours speaking with businesses and organizations to grow forward over challenges and through adversities. I am so excited for the next step and if you are ready to take the first step toward the rest of your life, I would love to walk with you!

If you’re ready to go… Let’s GO, NOW!

https://garystotler.com/coachgarystotler/

What is Mindset Conditioning?

Mindset Conditioning is the process of calm ‘state’ training to build personal power of one’s thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. The purpose is to build confidence through empowerment over one’s choices and provide more desired mindset and behavioral responses toward predesigned goals.

Over the past 20 years I have spent my time, attention, and energy learning about the subject I love the most; PEOPLE. I am passionately curious about what we do, why we do it and what we hope to gain from our thoughts, actions, and emotions.

Be the change you want TO SEE

You would be surprised how much can change in 90 days. A year could be the transformation you have been searching for. There is one thing that needs to move for a change to be seen around you… YOU!https://garystotler.com/coachgarystotler/

Colorful Detours

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Detours often lead to unexpected Adventures.


It’s been a while, mostly an intentional break to make sure I was focusing my attention in the proper places. I’ve been debating much within and searching for some understanding from the outside world. I have no more understanding and have yet to find what I’m looking for… I am however finding some peace in the unknowns.


A few weeks has passed since my least favorite day of the year and I found myself a little bit older and not so much wiser and with even less real direction than a year ago.


The oddity of the situation is I have found more peace in the uncertainty than I have had in years past. Most everything I have been before is gone. Most everything I thought I was working toward has disintegrated leaving me with another pile of ashes… once again hoping for a beautiful Phoenix to rise once again.


I believe, with some scientific evidence and with the helpful reflections from many people I have worked with over the years, that we tend to physically manifest that which we emotionally feel.


If we are Joyful, our body exudes energy.
If we are lonely, we often feel empty.
If we are hurt, we often want to feel physical pain.


For a bit of time, I have felt lost. Much of which is living in a body I still don’t understand. I continue to sit in a mind that fascinates me, yet I lack the understanding around It’s full functionality. The life I have is full of much Joy and Energy due to my mindset and activities, yet I still find peace in the solitude of being completely lost with not much more than the horizon to guide my way.


To bring these concepts full circle, I have been feeling lost with a massive storm building inside. As I left my previous destination with a path unknown, I chased a brutal storm racing across the western plains hoping to stand in it’s path so I could feel the cleansing wrath of the wind and water.


I raced it through the deepest forests and down the backroads across the plains never able to catch up. As I became disappointed I was going to miss my chance to be met with the reminisce of my journey, I looked up just above the cows to find the Joyful gift I was missing.


I am in a place I have never been and would never have followed a map to arrive to and I have been gifted with the most full rainbow I’ve ever seen. The colors of the sky mixed with the reflection of the sun setting over the far off horizon has mixed itself into a beautiful energy gifting suprise.


As I immediately stopped chasing the darkness, I was given a fresh view of beautiful light sitting in the great big sky. I took the time to reflect in my moment as I gazed at the natural wonders we often miss passing through our lives ignoring much of what sets our heart free.


If I had a gift I could give directly to you, it would be a detour away from a challenge or adversity you are facing today, this week, this month, this year…


I would not give you the detour to take away from your journey, but to add some life giving energy to rebuild your strength and fortitude to head back into your challenge fully equipped with the stimulation and confidence you need to stand up once again and keep moving forward with your best next step toward your future.


Take an awkward step.

Take a detour.

Take a wrong turn.


Whatever you do….


Just take the step and don’t stop until you get where you want to go.


The difference between a cow and Buffalo is cows run away from the storm and Buffalo run through the storm…


Run like a MF Buffalo.

Selling Happily Ever Afters…

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Selling Bull Shit Happily Ever Afters…

No, it isn’t as easy as calories in and calories out.


No, training for a single race will not improve your long term fitness and health.


No, a magic 45 day fitness program will not undo twenty years of poor choices.


No, going Vegan won’t solve all your health problems.


No, this pill and that product is not the ‘key’ you have been missing.

No, weight loss surgery is not as simple as a procedure and then all the work is done.

Cut the bull shit… look behind the marketing… ask better questions… dig your feet in and let’s actually do the work to clear your head of the poor self talk, degrading attempt for perfection, and the lost confidence that crushes hopes and dreams of better fitness, health, and wellness for a few easy payments of $29.99 or an attachment to a group or activity that someone swears “that’s how they did it”…


People quit on their fitness and health journey every single day because when reality hits, the person who sold them the easy way is gone and onto the next person who will feed their ego through attention and profit.


Perfection is absolute bull shit. There is no one, no after how good their social media life sounds, that is perfect with their fitness, health, and wellness journey. There is no perfect diet and/or full proof exercise plan.
If someone is selling you a process that sounds too good to be true, it is.


If someone is selling a lifestyle that they swear consists only of easy things and fast results, it’s bull shit.


If someone is selling you fast, easy, and cheap… you’d better start picking yourself up and dusting yourself off to put in more time and harder effort later.


If someone is selling you ‘the secrets’, they are selling you a spruced up and repackaged box of information that has been around for hundreds of years.


Have you ever noticed that most movies end with a “Happier Ever After”?


Why is that?


Likely because hard work doesn’t sell million of dollars worth of worthless knik knacks… just as selling the reality of patience and persistence mixed with a solid commitment to consistency doesn’t sell very well.


Oh wait, there’s more…


Have you ever noticed that our social norms and cultural expectations are all built around causing an overindulgence in poor behaviors and we are continually blasted with messages that feed our insecurities and self talk?


Then what?


Who do you get to go for when you need support, encouragement, or accountability?
Who is there for you when there is no one who will give you their full focused attention? Or Listen to Understand you rather than cutting you off to pass judgements or ridicule or their unsolicited advice? Or who will walk with you so you can celebrate the wins? Or to work through the challenges? Or to sit in silence with you because there are no words needed, no effective commentary that will change anything, or who will breathe with you because a simple calm voice is all you need and want at that moment in time?


If you are struggling with finding your footing and building a solid step forward, call me. I will walk with you. We will set you up to succeed by creating a Positive Mindset, building Solid Disciplines, and maintain a Strong Foundation to build any goal you desire to dream about.


If you will have the Courage to call, I’ll guide you toward the Strength to continue.
Your first call is on me.


You have nothing to lose… and a whole life to gain.


https://coachgary.as.me/tackaction

Always Cheering for You, Gary

Attention Transaction Machine

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Remember when you had to pick up the phone to call someone? And if they weren’t there it was ok because you simply left a message and they called back when they could give you the proper attention.
When was the last time you wrote a note or a letter to someone you loved and cared about?


What was the last real conversation you had about the depths of what someone does, or who they are, or how they think?


Where has the ability to communicate and connect with real life humans gone?


Here is maybe a more simple question…


When was the last time you received a text message or a social media comment?


What did that feel like?
Why did you feel this way?
How did you expect to feel?


Do you ever get the impression you have become an Attention Transaction Machine?


I have been working to build my business for many years now and there are a few themes that keep being tossed at me… specifically the use of social media…


“You gotta play the game if you want to go anywhere.”


“Just start giving people likes and comments and they will start to notice you.”


“You can’t talk to real people in this environment… everyone is scared.”


“There is no way you’ll be successful if you don’t use social media.”


“Your idea of talking to real people is impossible- you can’t grow fast enough.”


These are a few of the most common pieces of ‘advice’ people give me… and I find one common theme.


They are all built around feeding the Attention Transaction Machine…


There is very little value in automation. The short term comfort of validation can come and go with a shift in an algorithm.

Connection between people often gets lost in translation between what is said and what is meant and what is interpretated.


All humans want love and attention communicated in a way they understand.

People want to be seen, heard, and affirmed.


Learn to give people your full focused attention (seen), listen to understand without the need to respond (heard), and leave a profit by finding out how you can support them (affirmed).


Following this simple process has given me the unique opportunity to communicate and connect with people on a level most don’t even know exists. The search for real connection is often longed for yet rarely found… in the toughest men and the most quiet women from across the world…


Learn to step out of the box you’re in and hold out your hand to start a real conversation with a stranger to find the step past the Attention Transaction Machine we have been conditioned to stare at over and over again.


On my adventure, I recently had an intentional conversation with a stranger I met on the beach in South Carolina. She asked my what I was doing drawing picture in the sand…


I explained to her I was only expressing my thoughts on the canvas I had in front of me and inspiration just happened to strike then. She smiled and within the next 90 seconds, I knew her entire life story.


She struggles with depression and anxiety, over eating and being under appreciated. Based on our conversation, she hasn’t truly been seen or heard in quite some time.


As our interaction came to a close, I wanted to leave her with a way to crowd out her undesirable feelings and add in feelings that are more beneficial to the life she wants to live.


I let her know what I was about to teach her can be repeated as many times a day, for the rest of her life, and it will cost her absolutely nothing accept the ability to become aware of the mental state she is in and then to remember to STOP and take a breath.


She agreed.


Here we go.


We started by taking a few calm cool breaths… as she began to relax, I had her close her eyes. I asked how she felt and within seconds, had already begun to release the tension in her heart and mind.


I had her take a few more breaths. As we started to breathe deeper and deeper, I asked her to breathe in the Sunshine and exhale the Darkness.


After her first deeper breath in with a new mindset, she immediately relaxed her shoulders and softened her gaze as a smile began to show on her face.


We took a few more breaths, a little deeper inside as I coached her through releasing the weight on her shoulders and clearing the clutter in her mind. With each word spoken and each breath taken she stood taller and brighter.


Here we go I spoke as we get rid of anything else left inside…


We will take three big deep breaths and on the fourth I will command you to briskly exhale all the negativity you hold…. deep breath in… deep breath out…


Again…


One more…


Now HUGE breath IN….


Giant sigh of relief OUT… LET IT ALL GO…..

PHHHHHFFFFFFFFFFF………


Now open your eyes.


As she smiled at me, I asked her…


“How do you feel now?”


She didn’t even need to say anything, I could see everything inside of her was different because everything she projected on the outside was calm and weightless.
She simply smiled at me.
I smiled at her.


I let her know she can go back to this exact mental and emotional state at anytime… no matter what is happening inside or out, just remember to do these simple things…


STOP…

Close your eyes…

Take a deep breath IN as you think about the Sunshine…HUGE deep sigh of relief as you let go of all the weight of your darkness in that moment…Open your eyes and accept your new mindset and physical state.

Continue moving forward with your shoulders back, chin up, and your beautiful smile.


She smiled and gave me a big hug as we parted ways not likely to ever see one another again.


She was on Cloud 9.


I was full of Joy.


No text message or social media response would ever touch the tip of fulfillment we received in that moment…


We didn’t need validation… just some good old fashion positive attention.


If love was our only currency, how wealthy would you be?

How to Walk Through Fear

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I took a deep breath in and let out the biggest relieving breath of my life…


Knock… Knock… Knock…


My head went in circles. My doubt screamed. My heart raced. My smile gleamed.
I knew I could never let the fear and anxiety be seen on the outside… this was the moment I’ve been growing for the last 90 days.


A familiar smile glanced with soft eyes and he greeted me with a quiet hello.


I introduced myself for the third time in 7 months and once again asked for a small favor to get my book in front of someone who might be able to assist me in growing my business.


He looked at me and said the CEO was in today, while he asked if I would like to meet Mr. G?


My heart burst and my smile exploded as I did anything and everything I could to contain my excitement.
It was the longest 100 seconds of my life waiting to be greeted by a man I have admired for years. I have read his books, studied his mentor, consumed any and all information I can from the foundation he leads… and now I was sitting in his office stacked with books and manuscripts about health, wealth, and happiness piled floor to ceiling in every direction.


He asked me a question as I laid 3 of my own books on his desk. I answered as effectively and efficiently as possible. He asked another question and I fumbled over my words. He asked one more and I followed through a little better this time.


Not knowing how much time I had, I spoke for thirty seconds on how influential his life’s work has been to me. I let him know without the books and audios and wisdom he has helped get into my hands, I would not be the man I am today…


He grined with the southern twang in his heart and began telling me the story of his life. He is a son of a coal miner who was given the gift of self education from a young age. He spoke of how he built his first million dollars. He told me of the legacy he hopes to leave when his work is done.


He looked at me and asked me if I knew this meeting should have cost me?…


I politely replied no sir, I don’t know.


He spoke a number if takes me several months to make…


I looked at him and thanked him for his generosity and time knowing this was cue my meeting was coming to an end.
He had me reach down and grab a book off his shelf. As he signed it, he looked at me with a smile. Here’s my personal number, call me in a week. I’ll give you a chance and read your book. We will talk about how I can help you.


With a calm smile, never taking my eyes off of his, I took a deep breath not knowing what was going to happen tomorrow, but today… 


I walked through my fear and hit the jackpot. I drove all the way across the country and knocked on the door of my future.


It opened.


And today is the first day of the rest of my life. I don’t know where I’m going, yet I know the step I take today will be full of all I can give knowing I am doing the best I can as what we do today effects ALL of our tomorrows.


Walk through your Fear…
Take a calm deep breath in.
Exhale with force to relieve the anxiety.
What is my fear?
Why am I fearful?
What is the best possible outcome?
What is the worst possible outcome?
What is the most likely outcome?
How will I take the best first step forward?
Now GO! Take the first step NOW!


Thought fills the empty space in our mind and the moment you hesitate, you’ve lost.
Take the step through the fear in your mind and watch your dreams come true in reality.


Today is the first day of the rest of your life…How will you move forward?

Joy is my Home

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Please let me introduce the man who taught me about Unlimited Energy and Joy.


There have been some highs and lows over the past couple years. They used to come so quickly and go so swiftly a therapist was trying to medicate me into oblivion because she swore I was bipolar.


It took about 4-6 weeks after I stopped drinking to begin to understand how to reduce my anxiety and overcome my depression from the identity tension I worked to release.


A year of relentlessly studying the mind gave me a new perspective on how we function through mental health struggles. I was enjoying my studies so I added more people and self education and began to explore new ideas and expand my personal philosophy on change.


Toward the end of summer in 2019, I found myself without the comfort of a home and living in the backseat of my tiny GEO Prism parked behind a Walmart in Denver.


The first day I woke up there, I thought I would be full of disappointment and shame. I got a little more than I expected…


I work up and watched the sunrise over the eastern plains snuggled up in my sleeping back pouring my tears of Joy onto the pages of my journal, also asking myself how the hell I was going to overcome the challenges I was presented with.


As if from nowhere, I was introduced to the man I needed more than anyone else in the world. He stands just over six feet tall and has a smile as energetic as the Sun.


He too had been through many hardships and we shared a mutual life situation. This man fascinates me. Still to this day, no matter how difficult his struggles, he finds a way to step back, see the situation from a different perspective, and stimulates a solid mix of intelligence and creativity to overcome challenges and walk through adversities… all while keeping his head up and smile faced forward.


“Hope is the ability to profit from and setback. By becoming more than you are, you can overcome more than you did yesterday.”


Joy.


Joy is the number one lesson I have learned from him.


I have seen him homeless and hungry. I just sit back watch him be alone and lonely. The most incredible impact he has made on me is to use his situation to his advantage. There seems to be nothing he fears and I done know if risk even registers in his mind.
You should see him…


The way he works while no one is watching.

•Reading

•Writing

•Speaking

The way he projects attention.

•Focus

•Listening

•Communicating


The way he processes life.

•Intelligence

•Creativity

•Simplicity


I have seen him lose everything, multiple times, and stand right back up to face the exact challenge that beat him down… and win.


I have seen him walk up to strangers on the street and in their office and pass right through into the deepest part of their soul to give them everything that cannot buy.


I sit in awe of how he swiftly moves without effort, speaks with force yet care, and he has yet to prove to me there is nothing he won’t try at least once.


To see how people pick him off the street and the kindness he gives them.


To watch him give his attention so freely to those who need it more than he does.


I am amazed at how he takes a hard day and washes it away with some kind words to himself and a quick rest on his pillow before he wakes up and does it all over again with a smile.


I have asked him many times how he does it.


What drives you to keep giving to everyone you meet?

Why do you give away all your kindness?

When do you take time for yourself?

Who do you go to for support and encouragement?

How do you have unlimited energy?

Where can I learn to be full of Joy?


As he always does, he simplified everything to a few gentle steps forward.


Fresh air is the best care and self care is needed care. If your Emotional Battery is empty, you cannot give to others. It is just as important to keep your Mindset Positive through forced repetition of Gratitude. Lastly, treat your body as if it were the most important mechanical tool on the planet for it will help you or hinder you in the direction of your goals.


Here are the 3 categories with 6 steps to create Unlimited Energy from WITHIN.


Mind- To overcome challenges, you must learn to balance each side of your mind to reduce anxiety and increase motivation.

•Intellectual Stimulation

•Creative Expression

Body- Motion is the key to life as nothing is in the same place it was a second ago and will only be here in the current moment. If you don’t choose where you’re going, you’ll simply go where you are put.

•Physical Exertion

•Feeling of Progress

Soul- The energy of the Universe needs no explanation, yet without acceptance of it’s existence, you will fight a ghost as powerful and invisible as gravity.


•Emotional Connection

•Spiritual Release

As you step forward in your life, it is important to find balance and stimulate growth and discovery in each area. I life to heavy in one area will begin to be overrun with dissatisfaction and disappointment.
Positivity and Negativity cannot occupy a person at the same time. You must learn to choose Joy or Fear will quickly overtake you drifting down the path of misery and failure.


Do not be overwhelmed of the list as you will begin where you are and grow into the person you need and want to become on the journey of life. Be intentional and remain focused and there is no greater force than a man with purposeful action.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life… how will you live today?

Moment of Gratitude

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Please let me introduce the man who saved my life. The coach, the mentor, the friend I worked so hard to find. He has stayed in the shadows as we have walked through the deepest darkest bottoms. He has stood with me on the highest brightest mountains.

He taught me to move.

He taught me to feel.

He taught me to breathe.


Most importantly, he taught me to think.
He has traveled many miles alongside me in heart and mind. He convinced me if it is going to be it is up to me to shut my mouth and follow the process with my body.


He has felt the bone crushing tears stream right through me and cheered for me while no one was watching.


He is firm yet fair, teaching me how to focus my attention toward my one intentional direction. He remained patiently persistent with me as we committed to consistency over all else. During the most difficult times he would remove every layer of assistance from me to stimulate creative intelligence as I had to overcome challenges and hardships with no assistance.


He always knew it was more important to fail at something we wanted than to settle for less than we desired. He would remind me that for a baby to learn to walk, the parent must let go and let the baby learn to get back up over and over again.

The constant reminder to try this way and that way… we learn as much from how not to do than we do from doing it ‘until’ we succeed.


He would wait for me to scream and yell and laugh and cry as I struggled and clawed and found my own path to the top always standing there with his great big grin reaching palm up to pull me the last step through. He would challenge me to review anything and everything I did to grow personally while we dissected the new potential I discovered.


He taught me to coach. To listen, to hear, to mix intelligent emotion gives all who you speak a firm foot forward


He forced me to write. When you have only yourself, you must learn to understand yourself. The greatest book you will ever write is the handwritten notebook you pass onto your kids with all the wisdom money cannot buy.


He built my communication skills as powerful as a hurricane. Your duty is to have the ability to give any man, woman, or child your full and undivided attention so they know you see them, you must hear every word they say and every word their body shows. Most importantly you should leave them better than you found them through your powerful communication mixed with forceful positive enthusiasm which leaves them with butterflies floating around inside.


As I pass on the lessons I’ve learned from and grown to discover a potential far beyond my comprehension, I hope you will explore the knowledge and understanding to build wisdom you can take on your journey.


To the man who changed my life and picked me up at rock bottom and built me into the man I am today…


I owe you everything I have and all I still have to gain in the pursuit to follow my promise. 


Leave a Profit everywhere I go with all I meet which will sure make me very difficult to beat.


How will you Climb Your Mountain?

Focused Awareness

Intentional Disciplines

Build Confidence

Accept your Worth

Overcoming Challenges Stimulates Personal Power and Discovery of Your New Potential

Does the moon get lonely?

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Traveling alone is one of the greatest experiences I’ve ever had the opportunity to do. Over 25k miles across the United States in the past year…  through the backroads and big cities to see the most beautiful sunrises and sunsets from lighthouses, beaches, colorful waters, the highest mountains, and everywhere in between.


It is rare when I miss my goal of having an intentional conversation with a stranger. I pass out a few business cards every day too. I’m often surrounded by masses of people.
Yet, one thing drifts into my life many nights.


Loneliness.


Often it is comforted by the aloneness I feel from the inside. I am very lucky to have a solid and positive relationship with myself.
There are however, a few times here and there, when loneliness strikes hard.
It does make sense, I don’t really fit in anywhere with many people. I live an adventurous life but I don’t follow many cultural norms.

I often feel very boring and left out…
I don’t drink or smoke.
I rarely eat out as I still struggle with my relationship with food.
I don’t have a partner to call or friends who can come along. 


I spend my days listening to the stories of the people I meet along the way, knowing the relationship will end soon and I will be back to my own little world without much of a fanfare.


I have spent the last month without physically seeing anyone that I know. 30 days without real contact with a friend or family member. I spend 20+ hours everyday alone with only the thoughts in my head, feelings in my heart, and the feet that carry me along the way…


Tonight, as I wandered off on an Adventure, I’m sitting here watching the full moon rise over the Atlantic Ocean… no stars… no clouds… just a brisk wind carry the sound of the waves across my heart while I sit here and wonder…


Do you think the moon gets lonely?


My personal experiment of 30 days is nothing compared to what many people have had to go through the past year… a year of being forced to be alone without energetic contact, or physical touch, or emotional connection with someone close.
As the next step unfolds and the beginning of the aftershock begins to hit, I can’t help but wonder what the lasting effects are going to be of the massive isolation movement hidden behind masks and fear and reintegration into the future of society.
What I see on the road is much different than what I see on social media and the news. I wish I could say one is better or right or more predictable… but I can’t.


What I do know is that there is going to be some difficulties ahead.


All humans want love and attention communicated in a way they understand. People want to be seen, heard, and affirmed.
Here is a simple formula to give positive attention to anyone so we can work to improve the positive energy and reduce the destructive behaviors that follow when people begin to seek validation l through unhealthy means.


3 steps to Positive Attention


Seen

1. Focused Attention: Give the person you’re with your full attention.

Heard

2. Listen to Understand: Become passionately curious about them and what they’re saying (and what they’re not saying) without judgment and ridicule.

Affirmed

3. Leave a Profit: People don’t always need a response or guidance, they just need/want to verbally process what is in their head. Keep your ears open and mouth shut… it will go a long way to healing and providing a positive step in a better direction.


I encourage you to reach out to a friend or family member. Maybe you need an ear or maybe they need an smile.


Share some positivity today.

Give some kindness today.

Fill your heart with Joy today.


And no matter how lonely you are, remember the moon shines it’s brightest all alone.

Challenges Lead to Stimulation and Growth

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Life is Not All Sunshine and Rainbows

Humans tend to shy away from that which will heal their heart, mind and body. It is not in avoiding pain but understanding pain that creates strength and courage. This is not to say that one must ‘grind’ their mind and body into the ground to create ‘toughness’ to gain a benefit for the future. Learning to let go of suffering creates power.

The key is to understand ‘strength’ is built through overcoming adversity and healing from setbacks. Facing fear and failure, heartbreak and loss with patience and persistence in an intentional positive direction toward a predetermined goal or desired outcome.

It is not the act of pain and suffering but the human misunderstanding and inability to cope with these natural conditions of life that causes the internal discord of ‘grinding’ and whittling away one’s self worth.

It is only when we become strong and courageous enough to stand in the darkness of our own mind that we can confront the pain and challenges; to shed love and light on ourselves and grow our heart and mind out of the darkest shadows.

During my process we learn to understand darkness and despair. We develop the strength and skills, not to avoid pain and challenges but allow ourselves the grace to embrace the short-term experience of pain knowing avoidance of challenges will cause long-term suffering.

Pain is a gift if we allow it to come and go without the instinctive need to control or avoid the discomfort. Pain and challenges will heal and grow the human spirit through acceptance and understanding releasing the detrimental emotions of regret, guilt, and shame that weigh down the human spirit.

Only through my process of gaining knowledge and understanding can we discover the root cause of our pain. We must learn to disrupt the numb feeling of comfort to begin the process of healing. Looking deeper toward the root cause of what ails our mind and body.

We can learn to heal our mind and body through understanding and wisdom. As suffering drifts away, it is replaced with happiness and joy.

Discomfort and Challenges may not make us feel better but learning from the pain will make us well.

The difference between a cow and a Buffalo is a cow walks toward short-term comfort and a Buffalo runs through the storm…

Learn to RUN like a Buffalo.

Master your Self Talk Monster

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Master your Self Talk Monster…

The voices in your head that speak to you, can help you or hinder you… do you master your mind or does your mind master you?

What does your voice say?

Why does it speak as it does?

How can you become the master of the voices in your head?

Simple…

Practice… Practice… Practice…

Practice doesn’t make perfect.

Practice doesn’t make permanent.

Practice builds power… and Power is what you will want and need to master the voice.

But…, what kind of POWER do I need?

Personal Power.

But…, why PERSONAL POWER?

Because Personal Power is the power over CHOICE. When we learn to have Power over our choices, we can create better thoughts, which lead to an improvement in behaviors, which stimulates better emotions…

It is not in doing everything or nothing, forever or never… Personal Power over our Choices is about having the ability to balance what we want now and what we want in the future in order to achieve our short-term indulgences of happiness and our long term desire for Joy. When we learn the to grow the Power of Choice, there is nothing we must ‘give up’ because we always have the right to change our mind… yet later in the process, once we learn we do not “need” something anymore… we enjoy making the ability to choose not to have it.

This is where JOY is built.

Back to building Personal Power over our Choices by mastering the Self Talk Monster that lives in our head…

Power is built through repetition.

The repetitions consist of Courage plus Strength.

Think of a squat or a pushup for a moment. It takes courage to drop down and strength to push ourselves back up. If we cannot do one… then we use assistance. There is no shame in not being able to do one repetition. IF you feel shameful or embarrassed for not being able to do one- that is your negative self-talk monster talking and it has control over the emotional ego monster… and that is what is holding you back from taking the first step.

With each repetition of courage to let go and the strength to push you back up, you build your muscles which creates power. With each PROPER repetition, you grow stronger and stronger. THEN!!!!! Do not forget to rest! After working out, in our mind or our body, we MUST REST! It is extremely important to rest and recover properly to give our mind and muscles an opportunity to rejuvenate and grow stronger.

With each passing day, you will notice the amount of risk to take the first step lowers due to the confidence you are gaining. With increased confidence, there is less courage needed to let go and start the first repetition. With less mental energy needed to start, you will notice you have more physical energy to push you back up which leads to MORE reps AND BETTER reps!

YES!

You are GROWING thru PROGRESS!

Congratulations!

Oh…, you thought we were still talking about the physical, weren’t you?

I know because we were focused on an example most of us can understand. A squat and push up is nothing more than a physical way for me to explain something mental, that takes place in the mind. With each mental push up, with each mental squat, with each positive repetition of positive self-talk through gratitude and encouraging language, we begin to develop the same Power in our mind.

That is really cool, isn’t it!?

As you work to create better decision-making skills through simple repetitions of positive self-talk and gratitude, you will begin to notice your mindset gaining strength and courage. You will notice hard things getting more simple. You will notice your choices starting to line up toward your goals more often. You will feel yourself winning more and losing less… which means something is happening inside you…

You are growing.

You are doing great!

You are uncovering your next level of personal discovery!

So, how do you do this?

Simple.

Not easy…

But Simple…

I prefer to start in the morning. This gives you the best opportunity to win and start your day in the most positive direction we can.

Start small, with nothing more than awareness of the process being the goal.

Remember, where we start and where we end are NOT the same place. Give yourself the grace to start where you are and trust yourself to know you will grow into who you want to be.

Here we go.

STOP! And be still.

Take some breaths to calm your mind and your heart.

Close your eyes.

Take a HUGE deep breath in… breathe in the Sunshine.

Let go of a HUGE relieving exhale…. AAAHHHHHHH……. Breathe out the Darkness.

Ask these questions softly and gently.

What am I feeling?

Why am I feeling this way?

How do I want to feel the rest of my day?

What is my best first in the direction of this feeling?

Now, GO! Before the moment breaks, take the step into your day!

Fear fills the empty space between thought and action. The moment you hesitate, you lost.

Take the breath.

Take the step.

Take back your Power over the next step toward the rest of your life.

Always cheering for you,

Gary