How will you handle adversity!?

Journaling has become part of my life and I am so thankful.  10 months ago when Coach Gary suggested I start journaling, I did. I did it more for him because he asked me to try it.  Today, it is part of my daily routine and I am so thankful.  I now journal for ME.  Yesterday was an extremely hard day in these tough times.  I hated the way that I felt.

After journaling yesterday, I felt like a huge weight was off of my chest.  10 months ago, I would have had more than one bad day, but because of my outlet to journal, my bad DAYS turned into just a DAY.  If you don’t journal, do yourself a favor and try.

I would like to share my journal from today…..

CHOICES:
You make them…
What will you CHOOSE today?
Let’s be honest..times are tough. I would by lying if I said the following things have not gone through my head in the last 2 weeks….When will I go back to work? Will I get paid? Will my friends and family be ok? Will my students and their families be ok? What will happen with school? Will I teach from home? How will I mentally make it being home by myself during the day without John? Will he be ok at work? Why is this happening? When will it be over? What about all the unknowns? Will everything shut down?

When I look back at all the questions, they have ONE THING in common.

They are all things I have no control over. So I need to make a CHOICE..will I choose to worry, stress, feel anxious, be upset and fearful or will I choose something that is healthier and do what’s best for me?
Yesterday, I CHOSE to worry, stress, cry, be a hermit, stay in bed, and have a negative attitude. The day was awful in the life of Becky.
Today is a new day and I have a CHOICE. What will I do with it? I will tell you, I am doing what I NEED to do to be happy. It may not be the same things as you. To have a successful day today,

I will:

*Walk 4 miles-DONE (It was beautiful out. The sun is shining and the birds are singing), *Write in my journal-DONE (you are reading it)
*Read outside
*Legos
*Think positive
*Limit my time on FB
*1 chore around the house
*Stay away from the news.
**I clearly need a schedule to keep busy.
What do you need?  
I made the choice to share my journal entry today. I share it with the hopes that one person gains something from it. So many of us are struggling. I CHOSE to be miserable yesterday and that is how my day was. I am CHOOSING to have a better day today and it is already wonderful!!
Remember: Each day you may not have control over what happens in your life, but you do have the choice of how YOU react to what is going on. You make the CHOICE. Make a great one ❤

Becky Crawford
Thank you so much for sharing your experience Becky!
Are you interested in making a positive change in your life?
I have a limited number of spaces open and I would love the opportunity to chat with you and see if we are a match.

Let’s have coffee!

The mental health struggle is real… About now, reality is setting in for most people…

Work is closed. The kids are home. More time with your partner.

People need progress… and stagnation causes poor thoughts and behaviors to creep in.

This is the new reality and it is stretching the mental limits of many people. The human mind can only take so much change in a short amount of time and anything beyond the comfort zone will naturally create tension, stress, anxiety and even depression is a short amount of time.

I am thankfully very lucky that I have been able to live a somewhat normal life through all the “outside noise” but there are a few things that bother me.

For one; my clients’ lives are being disrupted. This is the biggest concern for me because I know there are more people that are running into the exact same issues.

For two; as basic as I can put this statement, the mental health struggles that are about to hit are real and if we don’t plan ahead and work to prevent the build up of these issues, there will be more problems that compound in the future…

So, I want to help you the best way I can.

I want to have a cup of coffee with you. No matter where you are in the world, I want to sit down and have a chat. I am giving away my time and energy to help people who need and want the social time and/or the mental health outlet. I am opening the small chunks of time because I love what I do, and I know the value a kind word and an open ear in a time of change.

Let’s sit down and have a cup of coffee and I will listen to what you have on your mind, understand your situation or struggles and together we will develop a positive action plan to help you work through the overwhelming situation and anxiety of the unknown.

Here is how it works.

Schedule a time here: https://coachgary.as.me/phonecoffee

Then, just hop on the 30 minute Zoom Call. You can do video or audio, which ever you would prefer and all I ask is you be ready at the scheduled time. I don’t care if you are in your pajamas, your office, your house or wherever because this is YOUR time.

The only thing I ask is to be intentional with this time. I am still running my full wellness coaching business and I have obligations to my current clients so please respect my time and attention as I will also respect your time with my full attention.

There are a limited number of spots available per day, but I hope you will have the courage to schedule a time. Thank you and I look forward to chatting with you!

“You can observe a lot by watching.”

Have you ever wondered what other people are thinking?

Have you ever thought about why people act the way they do?

Have you ever thought about what your body language is saying that your words aren’t?

It doesn’t matter if you are close to the person or if they are a random stranger. If you observe long enough, they will tell you everything you need to know…. And they won’t even have to say a word.

People watching is one of my favorite activities. It doesn’t matter if it is a coffee shop, social media, an airport, or ??….. I love to observe the people I’m surrounded by. It’s interesting to watch strangers interact, but it is even more interesting to watch someone you know personally. To watch how they move their face and body. How they talk. Their tone and inflection. They will tell you everything you need to know.

Watch when someone is uncomfortable around you. How do they act? Are they standoffish? Do they move their body away from you? Do they make eye contact with you or do they keep from looking in your direction all together? Have you ever wondered why someone you talk to all the time all of a sudden won’t even stand next to you? Or they seem to avoid communicating with you all together? Maybe they have something they need to say to you and don’t know how. Or maybe they are even keeping something from you.

It’s very interesting to watch how relationships evolve as time goes on. How someone can go from a close friend to an acquaintance in what seems overnight. As we drift away from each other, we not only communicate less, but when we do, we move toward the type of communication which we find less intimate. Maybe moving from in person contact to talking over the phone, or moving from calls to texts, or texts to emails… etc. If we watch these closely, we can see how the communication drifts from one form to another until finally, the communication drifts away and we no longer contact each other on a regular basis. Never addressing what went wrong or why. Just allowing it to drift off so we don’t have to face being uncomfortable with a tough conversation.

I want to ask you…

Has this happened to you in an important relationship in the past?

Has moving away from the problem created tension in a place it is unnecessary?

Where do you think you could have done better with your communication?

What would you change? How will you do it differently moving forward?

“You can observe a lot by watching.” Yogi Berra

But we must not only sit by and watch… we have to be conscious of not only our actions (or inactions), but the actions (or inactions) of others.

Who is Gary Stotler?

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If you’ve ever been in the same room as Gary, you will know he brings an energy like no one else. His ability to connect and communicate is one of a kind.

Whether you hire Gary in to speak, coach, or to bring your team together, you will not be disappointed with the change in energy. He will challenge you, make you laugh, bring you to tears, and you’ll be begging for more.

Gary has been studying business, transformation, people, goals, action, and personal growth for over 15 years. Through his practical knowledge and personal experiences, he will elevate you and your organization to a whole new level.

Don’t wait another minute…. Contact Gary NOW! Schedule a call so you can begin taking action toward your goals.

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“Perhaps we shall learn, as we pass through this age, that the ‘other self” is more powerful than the physical self we see when we look into a mirror.”
  • Napoleon Hill

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